Day 28: Give Yourself Some Gold Stars – When I was a new mom, an older woman approached me at church and stuck a gold star sticker on my sweater. “I know the work you do at home goes unseen,” she said. “Here’s a gold star for a job well done.”
No matter what season of life we’re in, it’s so easy for women to be self-critical, to list all of the ways we mess up. Shame robs us of self-esteem, and we forget we have gifts and talents to offer the world around us. We get stuck on all that we aren’t—I’m not a good enough Christian; I don’t read my Bible enough; I’m not a grateful enough person—and then our shame grows bigger still.
When you’re in the thick of shameful thoughts or living in the dark days of shame, finding moments to give yourself gold stars can be especially challenging. However, if you can find some little way to encourage yourself, that process can do wonders for your ongoing overcoming-shame work.
God has gifted you uniquely, and those gifts are worthy of gold star stickers. Obviously, you don’t have to give yourself actual gold star stickers (although I hear all the cool kids are doing it). The idea is to find your own way of being kind to yourself and taking back some of the self-worth shame may have stolen.
Consider: Name or make a list of a few reasons you have for giving yourself some gold stars. What are some of your accomplishments, gifts, or abilities?
Prayer: God, because you have gifted me, I want to acknowledge those gifts- not for my glory, but for yours. You are so good to me. Amen.
(Sections taken from Overcomer by Aubrey Sampson. Copyright © 2015. Used by permission of Zondervan. www.zondervan.com. All rights reserved.)