Fast forward, this time to sophomore year. My first year in high school, once again feeling awkward about the school-day friendship thing because it was all about convenience and none of my actual friends had the same lunch period as me.
Paris did and she also happened to be in my PE class, so once again, I kind of attached myself to her.
Then she did it. She said something mean again. This time it was really mean. And at this point in life, I wasn’t middle-school-desperate-for-her-friendship. I wasn’t willing to let it slide. We were done.
Now, here’s the thing:
It’s been 25+ years and I haven’t forgiven Paris.
I’m working on it now and I don’t see her or anything, but her name comes up now and then in conversation with my high school friends, and I just inwardly roll my eyes and groan. Ewww. Do we have to talk about her?
Seems kind of lame now that I’m admitting it out loud, but it’s the truth.
I’ve secretly harbored this little grudge for over 25 years against a person who has likely forgotten the entire thing. I took the two mean things she said to me and added them together to = I will intensely dislike this person for the rest of my natural life.
(Because, as we all know, Christians can’t say we hate someone. And gossip. We never, ever gossip. We only share prayer requests.)
So thinking about all that got me to thinking about other people who’ve wronged me and how maybe I haven’t forgiven them either.
That got me to thinking about people I’ve wronged and how some of them haven’t forgiven me and how I wish they would.
It’s a vicious cycle, isn’t it?
The thing about grace is, we’re supposed to pay it forward. Well, actually, we’re supposed to forgive so we can be forgiven. I think this is one of the hardest verses in the Bible.
I keep thinking some day I’m going to run across a creative interpretation of this verse that will let me off the hook.
In the meantime, I’m trying to figure out some things.